Having a life full of people who love and need you is an amazing gift. BUT let's be honest, sometimes you just need a break. My calendar has been jam packed for the last few weeks, and with the holiday season approaching, there is simply no slow down in sight.
When you have a family of your own, holidays can be a truly wonderful time, but with that comes more responsibilities. You now have more outfits to plan, more gifts to buy and wrap, and multiple schedules to keep track of. A majority of the extra work, seems to typically fall on the shoulders of the mother.
So after all the running, caring for others, and errands are done..... What then are you doing for yourself? How do you relax?
It seems that most men, have hobbies, that can take them away from the home for multiple days at a time. Hunting, fishing, camping and so on..... Women seem to have hobbies that they squeeze in for a few hours here and there. I go on 2 scrapbooking weekends a year, but I am never farther than a few miles away.
I also try to get away alone, when I can, to do things like get my hair done, or get a massage. Occasionally, I have a dinner out with girlfriends. These things are few and far between though. No matter where I am, or what I am doing, I always seem to be talking or thinking about my family. I'm not saying this is a bad thing, it's just that sometimes we get so wrapped up in our role as wife and mother, that we lose track of who WE are and what WE want and need.
I think it's also important, to plan a few moments throughout each day for just you. Try and wake up before the kids, and drink your coffee alone. Easier said than done, I know. Take a long hot bath at the end of the day, if you can. Watch a completely ridiculous reality t.v. show, just because it clears your head for an hour. Turn the music up real loud on the drive to school, and sing your heart out. Read a trashy romance novel. Do anything, even if just for 10 minutes, that doesn't require you to think of anyone but yourself.
So True!
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